We are a Community by Choice

The Flittersphere™ is a community, a gathering of women invested in living our most vibrant lives. We believe this includes being authentic... honoring our true nature and purpose and living in line with our beliefs and values. 

Integrating those values into the Flittersphere™ lights our path and guides us in our pursuits, including how we operate as humans and as a business.  We know they’ll ring true with you and other Flittersphere™ thrivers! 

Here are the principles and practices that we embrace as our

Flittersphere™ Foundation.

Have an Explorer’s Heart and be intellectually and emotionally adventurous: We love new people, ideas, places, and experiences. We are seekers and adventurers - welcoming, open, curious, always learning, and eager to try new things. It's the best way to be, don’t you think? Here are some ways to do this:

• Use your emotions as valuable tools. They are not bad and do not need to be dismissed, ignored, or hidden, to make yourself or others comfortable. Emotions are a signal that something needs our attention. We can USE them to understand what’s going on, what we need, and how to respond or not. They help expand our self-awareness.
• Be a possibilitarian. There is more to the world than we know. The universe is limitless, and our lives and options can be too if we make room for it. Embrace “and” and “what if” thinking and be open to possibilities!
• Honor failure as a natural part of creating and evolving, and as an opportunity for Frequently Adjusting while Intentionally Learning.
• Embrace the beauty of imperfection and the power of YET. It sends an amazing message to your brain about what’s still possible, so your brain supports your pursuits instead of sabotaging you. You don’t know it YET. You haven’t created it YET. We are never perfect and never done. Give yourself permission to keep evolving, to thrive where you are at, and to strive for excellence, not perfection. Grace is a thriving skill.
• Accept that the world is full of paradoxes: multiple, even contradictory things can be true at the same time. Some things are unanswerable. Conclusions and outcomes can be counterintuitive and still make sense. We don’t always know everything. Get comfortable in the unknown and let things unfold as part of a journey.
• Keep an open mind to things you don’t understand or agree with, even to things that trigger you. Listen to learn & understand, be willing to consider more than what you know, believe, support, etc. Listening does not mean that you must adopt a belief, position, experience, etc. But it does give you an opportunity to broaden your mind.
• Be willing to change. Change is a given in life and it can be healthy to embrace it. Your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, assumptions, expectations, opinions, processes, methods, habits, etc. can evolve. We can release the programming and paradigms that don’t serve us anymore. Changing does not make you ‘wishy-washy’. It makes you wise, authentic, and intellectually honest. We have the right and ability to change things that no longer work for us. Refusing to do so in the face of new facts, experiences, opportunities, etc. limits you.

Get Real: We are all about authenticity, vulnerability, humor, and digging deep. It is pretty tough to create meaningful human experiences without those things. So dive into the deep end of the pool with us. Splash around, have some fun, and be your beautiful, brave, amazing self! Here are some ways to do this:

• Accept the risk that comes from being a creator and being vulnerable. Brené Brown describes vulnerability as "uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure." It can be scary, but It’s worth it, even when it doesn’t work out as you hoped.
• Practice showing up with an “other-centered” focus. Instead of leaning on coping and sourcing behaviors focused on performing and proving and trying to be enough… be in service to others, be curious, and be compassionate.
• Practice holding space for others and yourself. This creates a psychologically safe space for us to be vulnerable. Holding space means showing up for someone, being fully present and without judgment as you sit with that person through their difficult time. You listen fully. You allow yourself to feel their pain and negative emotions so that they don't have to do it alone. You are a witness to their experience, without needing to fix it to make either of you more comfortable.
• Avoid taking offense. Being offended by things others do or say or believe is a sub-optimal reaction. Other’s thoughts or actions aren’t ever about you. Allowing them to trigger you or in any way control your response, is disempowering. But, it is useful to notice and explore when you get offended or triggered. These moments highlight unhealed spots, and opportunities for your own evolution. See them, try not to make them mean anything about you, and ask good questions about them. This will generate insights, new agreements, and obvious next actions.
• Be honest. Tell people how you really feel about things and ask directly for what you want.
• Give and receive - Invite feedback and input from others and share your own thoughts respectfully. This isn’t the same as giving advice. Frame your input in the lens of your own experiences and perspective.

Embrace Life Truths: Our journey calls us to celebrate the truths that:

• Life is beautiful and messy. It's best when we learn to embrace the wholeness of the experience and its inherent value, rather than adding value and judgments to various aspects of an experience.
• There is something bigger than us and bigger in us to honor in this life.  Whether it's our life journey, the divine (whatever that is to you), possibilities, love & connection, purpose… there is something more to explore.
• We are each a necessary part of the overall human experience. We all matter.
• We make the biggest impact by sharing our gifts and bravely living our true nature and purpose.

Community Counts: We are not meant to human alone. We are certain that the human experience is meant to be done in community.

• Like you, we crave connection and engagement with other explorers and creators. We actively and joyfully foster authentic bonds within our community. This is core to who we are and to the experiences we seek to create. Here you’ll find more than self-study courses and lots of content… because we thrive on discussion, exploration, aha moments, and connection. This is a shared journey.
• Also, we believe in a sense of community beyond our fellow creators in the Flittersphere™, so we prioritize supporting our local and global communities through causes that align with our principles and mission. We hope you do, too!

Be Goodness Goddesses: We believe in "Be Good, Do Good, See Good".

• Be Good means we are honest, kind, generous, and self-aware. 
• Do Good means we are encouraging, helpful, and act with the best intentions. 
• See Good means to assume the best in other people’s intentions, seeing the goodness in them and finding the sliver lining in every experience.

Integrity is Everything: We are driven by our values, principles, and mission. We promise to be honest, trustworthy, fair, and responsible.

• For example, there are no hidden fees, no excuses for mistakes (when we make them, we own them and try to fix them), and no unrealistic promises, or high-pressure sales.
• We strive to do what’s right even if it’s not easy. We hope you do, too.